Just to give some details, dad insists he's fine on his own, but I'm worried sick every time I leave. He's had a few close calls with the stove lately. I don't want to take away his independence, but safety's gotta come first. It's driving me crazy trying to figure out where to draw the line.
The day I had to put my father in memory care was worse than his passing and the worst thing I've ever had to do. I'm still living with the guilt . Being his caregiver for 10 Years the day came when he was a Denver to himself and now. Others. I will never ever forget the pain we both went through. It was the hardest decision of my life. I have PTSD from that and in therapy. My heart and prayers and peace go out to you. I hope the transition if needed goes very well for you. Prayers to you.
In care for my Mom, we found Life Alert and it has been a blessing. There is a basic main unit that is in the living room, there is a button for the bathroom and a pendant each piece has a help button. That help button when pressed connects to 911 and emergency help immediately. Mom lives with me but having this as back up has given us peace of mind. Life Alert is $89 per month.
im dealing w this rn with my father in law. super stubborn man who swears hes fine but we keep finding expired food and unpaid bills. what helped was having his doctor talk to him - somehow hearing it from a professional made it click. we got him to agree to meals on wheels and a cleaning service. baby steps
Honestly… Listen to your gut. My mom kept saying she was fine until she left the stove on overnight and nearly burned down the house. Now looking back I wish I'd pushed harder sooner. We compromised - she stays in her house but has a caregiver come by 2x daily to help with meals and meds. Expensive but worth every penny for both our peace of mind. Sometimes being a good daughter means making tough calls they don't like
Started dealing with this last year with my dad. What worked for us was making small changes instead of big ones - like we got those automatic shut-off plugs for the stove and installed motion sensor lights. Dad didn't fight it too much bc it wasn't "taking over his life" (his words lol). Also put ring cameras in common areas so I can check in without driving over 3x a day. Not perfect but helps me sleep better at night