ZestyBetta223

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Dealing with guilt increased by family members?

So I’ve been a caregiver for going on 21 years. Took care of my husband at home while working full-time for 13 years, placed in nursing home, almost 8 years ago. Passed away April 14, 2025. I’ve been taking care of my mother who is now 90 for as long as my husband‘s been in a nursing home. She’s in the last stages of Alzheimer’s. Mom was sent to rehab after a fall at home. She didn’t injure herself, but she’s not balanced now to walk with a walker. So I’ve now placed her in skilled nursing home, and her sister and niece, my cousin, have been visiting her quite often while she was in the rehab. Now that she’s in skilled nursing, I’ve barely seen them. Everyone in this situation knows the guilt you place on yourself, but how do you deal with those family members that add additional guilt but aren’t stepping up to the plate to help?

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That's a tough situation, and kudos to you for all the love and support you've provided over the years for both your husband and your mom. I've seen my own mother going through this. I don't know that I have answers, but I do know you can be proud of the love and attention you've provided and shown!