Caregiver Community Forum

If in facility what happens

My mom is on star plus but I’m told if goes to facility Social security takes back money how does she pay for burial insurance? Also the attitude is getting so bad the fussing and she cannot pronounce words anymore is there something to help her?

What to do when there's nobody to help

Our social security is literally $5 too much to receive Medicaid for my husband who has Alzheimer's, and this eliminates him from the possibility of inpatient or outpatient or memory care that is paid for by Medicaid. Medicare only covers doctor's visits and some medications right now. Family lives far away and there doesn't appear to be support outside of support groups and some tiny bit of respite occasionally. Grateful but concerned. Any ideas? Some of the resources feel like putting a Band-Aid on an amputated leg!

How do I tackle common aging issues like mobility problems with my dad? His knees are giving out and now its hard for him to get up from his chair.

I'm curious about what basic services Medicaid for sure covers for low-income seniors. How can I make sure my aunt gets everything she is entitled to?

Folks, I'm trying to figure out this whole Medicaid thing for my aunt. She doesn't have much savings and her social security barely covers her bills. I've heard Medicaid can help with a lot of stuff, but it's all so confusing. The paperwork is driving me nuts and I'm afraid we're gonna miss something important.

Feeling lost. Can't afford Mom's care

I’m feeling really lost right now. I want to make sure my mom gets the care she deserves, but I’m struggling to figure out how to afford it all. It’s such a tough spot to be in, and I’m sure I’m not the only one dealing with this. Have any of you found creative solutions or resources that could help with finances for caregiving? I’d love to hear about different options or approaches that have worked for others. Any insight would be greatly appreciated

What strategies have worked for you when your loved one gets agitated and aggressive with Alzheimer's?

My father has been lashing out lately - yelling, even trying to hit me sometimes when I try to help him bathe. It breaks my heart and I don't know how to handle it. The doc says it's part of the disease but that doesn't make it any easier. I'm at my wit's end here, any advice would be welcome.

I'm considering a reverse mortgage to pay for care expenses. What are the pros and cons?

Alright, I'm gonna be real with y'all - we're running out of money to pay for Mom's care. A friend mentioned something about reverse mortgages as a way to tap into home equity, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not. I'm worried about losing the house, but I also don't know how else we're going to afford the care Mom needs. It all feels so overwhelming and I'm afraid of making a huge financial mistake.

What do I do if my mom keeps refuses her meds?

Guys, I'm at my breaking point with my mom's meds. Some days she takes 'em no problem, other days it's really hard to get her to swallow a pill. I've tried hiding them in food, but she's catching on. Her doctor says these meds are super important, but I can't force them down her throat.

How to balance a loved one's wishes with my own judgment?

Balancing my loved one’s wishes with what I think is best can be really tough sometimes. There are moments I wonder if I’m doing the right thing by following their requests, or if I should trust my gut instead. It’s a delicate dance between supporting their desires while ensuring their safety and well-being. How have others navigated these tricky situations? How do you decide when to honor their wishes and when to step in with what you believe is best?

I think my dad is getting depressed and lonely but I don't know how to help him. How can I connect with a counselor to get them some mental health support?

Hi all, I'm really worried about my dad. Since Mom passed away last year, he's just not been himself. He barely leaves the house and doesn't seem interested in anything anymore. I think he might be depressed, but I have no idea how to help him. I've tried suggesting he talk to someone, but he's from that generation that doesn't believe in therapy.